Getting over some unexpected breakup is very painful. And more surprisingly the pain is all in the brain.
It is very difficult to get over a breakup as proved by brain researches. But one can try to do so. One starts feeling rejected and starts questioning about his/her self. These feelings prove to be very painful.
Let’s try to understand the relationship of brain with breakups.
Relationship of brain with undesirable breakups:
Researches on breakups have given us reasons that why breakups are so painful in unmarried people? especially college students. An experiment held at Colombia University. A cognitive neuroscientist Edward Smith and his colleagues using fMIR (functional magnetic resonance imaging) proved that the brain areas lit up when the picture of an ex-partner was shown to a participant. The scientists found that these brain regions include insula and anterior cingulate cortex which are linked with pain regions.
Human brain processes the relationship breakups as the same way as it processes the physical pains. So, this indicates the reason why it is very difficult for many people to let go such breakups and to move on.
Breakup leads to obsessive thoughts:
Some people develop obsessive thinking. Because they were rejected by their partners in the past. The places where they used to go together an hangout on holidays. This stimulate the old thoughts or the feelings of loss. Going through a breakup is just like dealing with a big trauma. A person experiencing a breakup is entangled in obsessive thoughts and intense feelings but he/she tries to avoid emotional pains.
It has been observed that women are more likely to obsess.On the other hand men as compared to women are more likely to avoid such thoughts.
Brain helps to get over breakups:
As the brain of a person helps to fall in love. Likewise it can help to come out of love and to find some new partner. Above all, the brain of the rejected one in a breakup helps the one to have better feelings. And to act more mindfully. It seems that the brain is helpful in recovery and for making some good decisions. Which proves to be great in getting over a breakup.